Understanding we are Worthy, Capable, Connected, and Called to Adventure for a more Joyful and Resilient Life
Are we perfect just the way we are? If you are anything like me, you will occasionally read a meme on social media or hear a song that communicates that all of us are perfect just the way we are. And if you are also anything like me, you may have rolled your eyes in… Continue reading Are We Perfect Just the Way We are?
About four years ago, I let my hair go silver, and I have come to view this process as a spiritual practice. This may sound like an odd claim, so let me give you some context. Two summers in graduate school, I had the privilege of teaching Asian philosophy. And one of the books we… Continue reading Silver Hair as a Spiritual Practice
About four years ago, I let my hair go silver and grey. If you had told me in my thirties that I would do this, I would have been terrified. But surprisingly, letting my hair go silver has been one of the most joyful decisions I have ever made. It has helped me feel more… Continue reading Silver Hair, Limiting Beliefs, and the Power of Imagination
Are some people better than others? Sometimes we feel that way. For instance, we might look at other people and believe they are more successful, talented, gorgeous, handsome, or wealthy than we are. And these observations make us feel like they are better than us. Or, on a related note, we may believe we are… Continue reading Are Some People Better Than Others?
I think about self-love a lot. And I believe there are two common misunderstandings we have about it. For example, sometimes we believe that to be lovable, we must do great and awesome things. We believe we must stand out from the crowd. For instance, we might believe we only deserve to love ourselves if… Continue reading Two Common Misunderstanding about Self-Love
The older I get, the more I realize that all of us have a Wise and Wounded Self. And understanding these different selves can be helpful for a variety of reasons. You probably haven’t thought much about your Wise and Wounded Self. After all, I made up these terms. However, you are probably more aware… Continue reading Our Wise and Wounded Self (and Why This Matters)
You might have heard of self-love, and you might have heard of secure attachment. But you might not have heard of these terms used together. The connection between the two is important. First, Self-Love You might know that a lot of people are talking about self-love recently. I have written more about self-love and why… Continue reading Self-Love and Secure Attachment to Ourselves
This is the second post in a series about why we doubt we are capable. I wrote the first post in this series a few weeks ago, which you can read here: Why We Doubt We are Capable, Part 1 In that post, I discussed how the problem of exceptionalism can cause us to doubt… Continue reading Why We Doubt We are Capable, Part 2
This is my two-year silver hair anniversary update, a little late. Approximately two years ago in January, I decided to let my hair go silver, and I have never looked back. You can read more about my process here: I’m Letting My Hair Go Silver Five Things I’ve Learned from My Silver Hair The One-Year… Continue reading My Two-Year Silver Hair Update
Internal and external validation are two kinds of approval we seek in our lives. They are both important, and to some degree we need both. Nevertheless, many people struggle to trust their own sense of internal validation. Because of this, they get stuck seeking external forms of validation their entire life. This can cause a… Continue reading Internal Vs. External Validation