Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Do We Have a True Self and False Self?

I once heard someone talk about our True Self and a false self. And I sensed that they were talking about something important. But I didn’t completely understand the concept at the time. Recently I was reading some of the work of psychologist and philosopher Erich Fromm. His writing can be helpful in illuminating the… Continue reading Do We Have a True Self and False Self?

Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Two Common Misunderstanding about Self-Love

I think about self-love a lot. And I believe there are two common misunderstandings we have about it. For example, sometimes we believe that to be lovable, we must do great and awesome things. We believe we must stand out from the crowd. For instance, we might believe we only deserve to love ourselves if… Continue reading Two Common Misunderstanding about Self-Love

Dealing with Low Self-Worth, Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Self-Love and Secure Attachment to Ourselves

You might have heard of self-love, and you might have heard of secure attachment. But you might not have heard of these terms used together. The connection between the two is important. First, Self-Love You might know that a lot of people are talking about self-love recently. I have written more about self-love and why… Continue reading Self-Love and Secure Attachment to Ourselves

Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Internal Vs. External Validation

Internal and external validation are two kinds of approval we seek in our lives. They are both important, and to some degree we need both. Nevertheless, many people struggle to trust their own sense of internal validation. Because of this, they get stuck seeking external forms of validation their entire life. This can cause a… Continue reading Internal Vs. External Validation

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Working With Painful Emotions

Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Every day we tell ourselves stories about our own self and our life. And these stories matter greatly. They greatly affect our mood, our view of ourselves, and our ability to see life clearly. Let me give you an example from my own life. I have a diastema, which is a fancy name for a… Continue reading Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Intrinsic Worth, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What

Dear Friend, you have intrinsic worth today, no matter what. But I know that is sometimes hard to believe.  If you are like a lot of people, including me sometimes, you spend a lot of time worrying if you are good enough. Or you spend a lot of time trying to prove to other people… Continue reading Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized, Wonder and Enchantment

Three Awesome Gifts I Have Given Myself in the Last Decade

I believe in the power of self-love, but I also believe that self-love is quite different from how many people think of it. People often think that self-love is going on shopping trips, getting manis and pedis, and treating one's self to chocolate and other delectable delights. And certainly these things can play a role… Continue reading Three Awesome Gifts I Have Given Myself in the Last Decade