Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Every day we tell ourselves stories about our own self and our life. And these stories matter greatly. They greatly affect our mood, our view of ourselves, and our ability to see life clearly. Let me give you an example from my own life. I have a diastema, which is a fancy name for a… Continue reading Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Healing Difficult Emotions, Relationships and Love

Dealing with Our Dark Side

Several posts ago, I wrote about cultivating Flourish-Friendly Relationships instead of Control Relationships. You can read more about this here. In this post, I will write about dealing with our dark side. But first, let's review what Flourish-Friendly and Control Relationships are. Flourish-Friendly Relationships are ones in which the people involved create a space together… Continue reading Dealing with Our Dark Side

Healing Difficult Emotions, Uncategorized, Wonder and Whimsy

How to Use Your Imagination Like a Boss

This post is about how you can use your imagination like a boss to change your life and the world. First. let's play a game I call "Have You Ever?" Have You Ever…. Have you ever freaked yourself out in a dark room by imagining all of the scary monster, zombies, and bad guys reaching… Continue reading How to Use Your Imagination Like a Boss

Body Love and Body Kindness, Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

The Pain of Unrealistic Beauty Standards

Unrealistic beauty standards cause so many people so much pain. In the last decade, I have stopped chasing them, and I am happier and more resilient because of it. I was originally going to title this post “How I Gained Weight and Went Grey, and I am Happier and More Resilient than Ever.” And I… Continue reading The Pain of Unrealistic Beauty Standards

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Care Package #3 for Stressful Times: Taking Your Emotional Temperature

This care package is about a self-regulation technique called "Taking Your Emotional Temperature" and how it can help us manage difficult times. (You can find links to related posts down below.)   A simple way to take your emotional temperature is to stop once or twice (or however many) times a day and ask yourself,… Continue reading Care Package #3 for Stressful Times: Taking Your Emotional Temperature

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Spirituality and Love

Care Package #2 for Stressful Times

Dear All: The Coronavirus situation can bring up a lot of painful feelings. This care package is about dealing with painful feelings in times like this. ***** If you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing on social media. If you enjoyed the post above, you might also like this post: An Anxiety Care Package for… Continue reading Care Package #2 for Stressful Times

Healing Difficult Emotions, Uncategorized

Anxiety Care Package #1 for Stressful Times

Dear All: I am writing this post during the Coronavirus pandemic (but this post is applicable to any time of stress and anxiety). A lot of us struggle with anxiety, especially during scenarios like we are facing right now. In times like this, we often need help managing our thoughts and worries. Below I have… Continue reading Anxiety Care Package #1 for Stressful Times

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Do You Live from the Inside Out or the Outside In?

Do you live from the inside out or the outside in? Okay, to be honest, that is not an entirely fair question to ask you at the beginning of this post. I coined the phrases Living from the Inside Out and Living from the Outisde In. I haven't even told you what they mean yet. So… Continue reading Do You Live from the Inside Out or the Outside In?

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

When We Feel Purposeless

Human beings need purpose. We need to feel like we have something special that we  share with the world. Given this need, it is understandable why we suffer painful feelings when we think we aren’t good at anything. For example, we may feel discouraged or depressed when we feel like we don’t have special any… Continue reading When We Feel Purposeless

Healing Difficult Emotions, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions

The purpose of my blog is to help people practice kindness, compassion, and respect to live more resilient lives.[1] One of the ways we show ourselves kindness, compassion, and respect is by developing practices that help us cope with painful emotions. Sometimes painful emotions are severe enough that we need to seek help from a… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions