Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Two Common Misunderstanding about Self-Love

I think about self-love a lot. And I believe there are two common misunderstandings we have about it. For example, sometimes we believe that to be lovable, we must do great and awesome things. We believe we must stand out from the crowd. For instance, we might believe we only deserve to love ourselves if… Continue reading Two Common Misunderstanding about Self-Love

Healing Difficult Emotions, Intrinsic Worth

Why We Often Feel Bad About Ourselves

We often feel bad about ourselves. As a result, we often engage in painful habits and thought patterns connected with these negative feelings. For example, how often do you find yourself doing some or all the following things? Worrying about other people’s approval. Comparing yourself to other people. Trying to accomplish amazing things to earn… Continue reading Why We Often Feel Bad About Ourselves

Intrinsic Worth

Our Wise and Wounded Self (and Why This Matters)

The older I get, the more I realize that all of us have a Wise and Wounded Self. And understanding these different selves can be helpful for a variety of reasons. You probably haven’t thought much about your Wise and Wounded Self. After all, I made up these terms. However, you are probably more aware… Continue reading Our Wise and Wounded Self (and Why This Matters)

Intrinsic Worth, Morality, Ethics, and Love, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

Why We Doubt We are Capable, Part 2

This is the second post in a series about why we doubt we are capable. I wrote the first post in this series a few weeks ago, which you can read here: Why We Doubt We are Capable, Part 1 In that post, I discussed how the problem of exceptionalism can cause us to doubt… Continue reading Why We Doubt We are Capable, Part 2

Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Internal Vs. External Validation

Internal and external validation are two kinds of approval we seek in our lives. They are both important, and to some degree we need both. Nevertheless, many people struggle to trust their own sense of internal validation. Because of this, they get stuck seeking external forms of validation their entire life. This can cause a… Continue reading Internal Vs. External Validation

Intrinsic Worth, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What

Dear Friend, you have intrinsic worth today, no matter what. But I know that is sometimes hard to believe.  If you are like a lot of people, including me sometimes, you spend a lot of time worrying if you are good enough. Or you spend a lot of time trying to prove to other people… Continue reading Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What