Relationships and Love, Uncategorized

Is Being Kind a Sign of Weakness?

Several times this week, I have read on social media people suggesting that kindness is weakness. It always surprises me when I read things like this. On the one hand, I can understand how someone might come to believe that kindness is a sign of weakness. Sometimes people mistake kindness for niceness. And I don’t… Continue reading Is Being Kind a Sign of Weakness?

Feminism and Love, Philosophy and Love, Relationships and Love

The Greatest Gift My Dad Gave Me

I have been wanting to write this post for a long time, and having just celebrated Father’s Day on Sunday, I realized that now is the time. I want to write about the greatest gift my dad has given me. To tell you about this, I need to tell you a little bit about my… Continue reading The Greatest Gift My Dad Gave Me

Healing Difficult Emotions, Relationships and Love

Dealing with Our Dark Side

Several posts ago, I wrote about cultivating Flourish-Friendly Relationships instead of Control Relationships. You can read more about this here. In this post, I will write about dealing with our dark side. But first, let's review what Flourish-Friendly and Control Relationships are. Flourish-Friendly Relationships are ones in which the people involved create a space together… Continue reading Dealing with Our Dark Side

Relationships and Love

Nurture vs. Control in Relationships

This post is about how people nurture vs. control in relationships and why nurture is essential for developing our full potential. To explain this, I am going to explore two types of relationships. One if the flourish-friendly relationship and the other is a control relationships First, we need to start with something interesting about people.… Continue reading Nurture vs. Control in Relationships

Relationships and Love, Wonder and Whimsy

Lessons I Learned from My Kitty Leo

My husband and I had to say goodbye to our kitty Leo last week. We are heartbroken, but it was Leo's time to go. He had lived a long life--we think about 15 years--and his health had been declining recently. Last week we realized that keeping him here with us any longer wasn't doing him… Continue reading Lessons I Learned from My Kitty Leo

Politics and Love, Relationships and Love

Are You Too Sensitive or are Others Insensitive?

“You’re too sensitive.” Has anyone ever said this to you before? Have you ever said this to anyone else? This is a common claim (or accusation), but how can we tell if someone is being too sensitive or if the other person is being insensitive? I will use two people, Person A and Person B,… Continue reading Are You Too Sensitive or are Others Insensitive?

Politics and Love, Relationships and Love

About Oppression and White Privilege

Recently, there have been a lot of cultural discussions about issues like oppression and white privilege. This post aims at clarifying some of those key concepts. Where We Are In the past few decades, the United States has made excellent strides in promoting civil rights, especially for People of Color and other minority groups. We… Continue reading About Oppression and White Privilege

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Relationships and Love

That Poison Ivy Patch: A Love Story

I wish I could say that this story about me accidentally hiding in a poison ivy patch is hyperbolic, but it's not. It is, however, a love story. It all began one summer when I was a camp director at a camp in Ohio. I loved being a camp director. In particular, I loved designing… Continue reading That Poison Ivy Patch: A Love Story

Relationships and Love, Uncategorized

That Time I Almost Got Stuck on a Volcano

First, you should know that I did actually almost get stuck on a volcano once, but don't worry because it wasn't an active volcano. I'll come back to that in a minute. Also, this wasn't my first brush with volcanoes. I lived in Portland, Oregon when Mount St. Helens erupted  in 1980. And I vividly… Continue reading That Time I Almost Got Stuck on a Volcano

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love, Relationships and Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Can Self-Help Perpetuate Injustice?

Can self-help perpetuate injustice? I write about self-love and body-love a lot on my blog because I want people to learn to love themselves better in order to live a more integrated, peaceful, and powerful life. So it may seem strange on such a blog for me to write about self-help hurting people and perpetuating… Continue reading Can Self-Help Perpetuate Injustice?