Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Do We Have a True Self and False Self?

I once heard someone talk about our True Self and a false self. And I sensed that they were talking about something important. But I didn’t completely understand the concept at the time. Recently I was reading some of the work of psychologist and philosopher Erich Fromm. His writing can be helpful in illuminating the… Continue reading Do We Have a True Self and False Self?

Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

When We Want to Create a Different Path for Ourselves

Sometimes we feel bad about the path we are on, and we want to create a new path for ourselves. But we feel discouraged and don’t know how. We might not like the path we are on for a variety of different reasons. For example, perhaps we feel like we are not a very good… Continue reading When We Want to Create a Different Path for Ourselves

Body Love and Body Kindness, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion

How I Accidentally Tricked Myself with Picture Filters

I tricked myself with picture filters the other day and caused myself a lot of anxiety in the process. The story is partly funny and partly embarrassing. And it also reminded me of some important lessons pertaining to social media. So here is how I tricked myself. Several months ago, I was taking selfies to… Continue reading How I Accidentally Tricked Myself with Picture Filters

Resilience, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

Let Yourself be a Beginner

It is important to let yourself be a beginner. It's important that I let myself be one, too. But it is really hard. If you are anything like me, you have a bit of a perfectionist streak, and you want to get everything right and do everything well from the very beginning. Because of this,… Continue reading Let Yourself be a Beginner

Intrinsic Worth, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What

Dear Friend, you have intrinsic worth today, no matter what. But I know that is sometimes hard to believe.  If you are like a lot of people, including me sometimes, you spend a lot of time worrying if you are good enough. Or you spend a lot of time trying to prove to other people… Continue reading Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What

Body Love and Body Kindness, Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

The Pain of Unrealistic Beauty Standards

Unrealistic beauty standards cause so many people so much pain. In the last decade, I have stopped chasing them, and I am happier and more resilient because of it. I was originally going to title this post “How I Gained Weight and Went Grey, and I am Happier and More Resilient than Ever.” And I… Continue reading The Pain of Unrealistic Beauty Standards

Self-compassion, Uncategorized

Care Package #4 for Stressful Times: Practicing Self-Regulation

This post is in a series about dealing with stressful times. You can find links to the other posts in this series at the end of this post. One of the ways we help ourselves deal with difficult times is by practicing. Here are some paintings and thoughts to help you with that. ***** If… Continue reading Care Package #4 for Stressful Times: Practicing Self-Regulation

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Care Package #3 for Stressful Times

This care package is about a self-regulation technique called "Taking Your Emotional Temperature" and how it can help us manage stressful times. (You can find links to related posts down below.) A simple way to take your emotional temperature is to stop once or twice (or however many) times a day and ask yourself, "How… Continue reading Care Package #3 for Stressful Times