Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Internal Vs. External Validation

Internal and external validation are two kinds of approval we seek in our lives. They are both important, and to some degree we need both. Nevertheless, many people struggle to trust their own sense of internal validation. Because of this, they get stuck seeking external forms of validation their entire life. This can cause a… Continue reading Internal Vs. External Validation

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Every day we tell ourselves stories about our own self and our life. And these stories matter greatly. They greatly affect our mood, our view of ourselves, and our ability to see life clearly. Let me give you an example from my own life. I have a diastema, which is a fancy name for a… Continue reading Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Intrinsic Worth, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What

If you are like a lot of people, including me sometimes, you spend a lot of time worrying if you are good enough; trying to prove to other people that you are good enough in some way; or despairing that you will never be good enough. Many of us have picked up messages along the… Continue reading Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized, Wonder and Whimsy

Three Awesome Gifts I Have Given Myself in the Last Decade

I believe in the power of self-love, but I also believe that self-love is quite different from how many people think of it. People often think that self-love is going on shopping trips, getting manis and pedis, and treating one's self to chocolate and other delectable delights. And certainly these things can play a role… Continue reading Three Awesome Gifts I Have Given Myself in the Last Decade

Body Love and Body Kindness, Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

The Pain of Unrealistic Beauty Standards

Unrealistic beauty standards cause so many people so much pain. In the last decade, I have stopped chasing them, and I am happier and more resilient because of it. I was originally going to title this post “How I Gained Weight and Went Grey, and I am Happier and More Resilient than Ever.” And I… Continue reading The Pain of Unrealistic Beauty Standards

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Care Package #3 for Stressful Times: Taking Your Emotional Temperature

This care package is about a self-regulation technique called "Taking Your Emotional Temperature" and how it can help us manage difficult times. (You can find links to related posts down below.)   A simple way to take your emotional temperature is to stop once or twice (or however many) times a day and ask yourself,… Continue reading Care Package #3 for Stressful Times: Taking Your Emotional Temperature

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Spirituality and Love

Care Package #2 for Stressful Times

Dear All: The Coronavirus situation can bring up a lot of painful feelings. This care package is about dealing with painful feelings in times like this. ***** If you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing on social media. If you enjoyed the post above, you might also like this post: An Anxiety Care Package for… Continue reading Care Package #2 for Stressful Times

Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

10 Mind-Body Practices You Can Do if You Feel Anxious During the Coronavirus (or Anytime)

When we face national and personal crises like the Coronavirus, it is easier for us to  feel anxious about everyone and everything in our life. These are natural feelings and nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes, however, we need a way temporarily to ground ourselves, escape our anxiety, or step outside of it in order… Continue reading 10 Mind-Body Practices You Can Do if You Feel Anxious During the Coronavirus (or Anytime)

Peaceful Thoughts and Affirmations, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

How I Make Things Magically Appear Before My Eyes (and I am Mostly Serious)

When I was young and my mom would ask me to go find something for her, I frequently came back within minutes announcing, "I couldn't find it." My mom's customary response was, "You are looking with your eyes closed", by which she meant that I wasn't intentionally looking for the thing I was after or… Continue reading How I Make Things Magically Appear Before My Eyes (and I am Mostly Serious)