Sometimes we feel bad about the path we are on, and we want to create a new path for ourselves. But we feel discouraged and don’t know how. We might not like the path we are on for a variety of different reasons. For example, perhaps we feel like we are not a very good… Continue reading When We Want to Create a Different Path for Ourselves
This is my two-year silver hair anniversary update, a little late. Approximately two years ago in January, I decided to let my hair go silver, and I have never looked back. You can read more about my process here: I’m Letting My Hair Go Silver Five Things I’ve Learned from My Silver Hair The One-Year… Continue reading My Two-Year Silver Hair Update
One of our most painful feelings occurs when we doubt that we are capable. We may doubt that we are capable of accomplishing a certain task or being a certain kind of person. Or we may just generally doubt that we can succeed at life. This is a widespread feeling that so many people suffer,… Continue reading Why We Doubt We are Capable, Part 1
It is a new year. And you may feel really excited about it. Or you may feel a sense of foreboding. I get that. The new year can bring a lot of mixed feelings. In addition, sometimes we also often feel a lot of pressure at the beginning of a new year. Perhaps we feel… Continue reading How to Kindle Hope for the New Year
Sometimes we feel stuck in our life and like we cannot change. This experience especially causes a great deal of suffering when the following are true: We feel like we are trapped in self-destructive patterns of behavior. Or we feel like we undermine ourselves and we don’t know why. We are not living the life… Continue reading Can People Change?
Internal and external validation are two kinds of approval we seek in our lives. They are both important, and to some degree we need both. Nevertheless, many people struggle to trust their own sense of internal validation. Because of this, they get stuck seeking external forms of validation their entire life. This can cause a… Continue reading Internal Vs. External Validation
Every day we tell ourselves stories about our own self and our life. And these stories matter greatly. They greatly affect our mood, our view of ourselves, and our ability to see life clearly. Let me give you an example from my own life. I have a diastema, which is a fancy name for a… Continue reading Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter
It is important to let yourself be a beginner. It's important that I let myself be one, too. But it is really hard. If you are anything like me, you have a bit of a perfectionist streak, and you want to get everything right and do everything well from the very beginning. Because of this,… Continue reading Let Yourself be a Beginner
Dear Friend, you have intrinsic worth today, no matter what. But I know that is sometimes hard to believe. If you are like a lot of people, including me sometimes, you spend a lot of time worrying if you are good enough. Or you spend a lot of time trying to prove to other people… Continue reading Why You Have Intrinsic Worth Today No Matter What
I believe in the power of self-love, but I also believe that self-love is quite different from how many people think of it. People often think that self-love is going on shopping trips, getting manis and pedis, and treating one's self to chocolate and other delectable delights. And certainly these things can play a role… Continue reading Three Awesome Gifts I Have Given Myself in the Last Decade
