Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Do We Have a True Self and False Self?

I once heard someone talk about our True Self and a false self. And I sensed that they were talking about something important. But I didn’t completely understand the concept at the time. Recently I was reading some of the work of psychologist and philosopher Erich Fromm. His writing can be helpful in illuminating the… Continue reading Do We Have a True Self and False Self?

Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Two Common Misunderstanding about Self-Love

I think about self-love a lot. And I believe there are two common misunderstandings we have about it. For example, sometimes we believe that to be lovable, we must do great and awesome things. We believe we must stand out from the crowd. For instance, we might believe we only deserve to love ourselves if… Continue reading Two Common Misunderstanding about Self-Love

Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

When We Want to Create a Different Path for Ourselves

Sometimes we feel bad about the path we are on, and we want to create a new path for ourselves. But we feel discouraged and don’t know how. We might not like the path we are on for a variety of different reasons. For example, perhaps we feel like we are not a very good… Continue reading When We Want to Create a Different Path for Ourselves

Intrinsic Worth, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Internal Vs. External Validation

Internal and external validation are two kinds of approval we seek in our lives. They are both important, and to some degree we need both. Nevertheless, many people struggle to trust their own sense of internal validation. Because of this, they get stuck seeking external forms of validation their entire life. This can cause a… Continue reading Internal Vs. External Validation

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Every day we tell ourselves stories about our own self and our life. And these stories matter greatly. They greatly affect our mood, our view of ourselves, and our ability to see life clearly. Let me give you an example from my own life. I have a diastema, which is a fancy name for a… Continue reading Stories We Tell Ourselves and Why They Matter

Resilience, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

Let Yourself be a Beginner

It is important to let yourself be a beginner. It's important that I let myself be one, too. But it is really hard. If you are anything like me, you have a bit of a perfectionist streak, and you want to get everything right and do everything well from the very beginning. Because of this,… Continue reading Let Yourself be a Beginner