Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Spirituality and Love

How to Find Your Purpose

Purpose is important. When we have a purpose, we feel like our life is meaningful, that we matter, and that we contribute something good to the world. Nevertheless, it can sometimes feel a little tricky to find our purpose. We don't necessarily receive a lot of instruction in life on how to find it, and… Continue reading How to Find Your Purpose

Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

All Your Feelings are Permitted: A Brief Encouragement

Dear Friend, If you feel sad today, you are loved. If you feel happy today, you are loved. If you feel angry today, you are loved. If you feel joyful today, you are loved. If you feel hopeful today, you are loved. If you feel hopeless today, you are loved. If you feel connected today,… Continue reading All Your Feelings are Permitted: A Brief Encouragement

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

When We Feel Purposeless and Like We aren’t Good at Anything: Avoiding “Static Thinking”

Human beings need purpose. We need to feel like we have something special that we  share with the world. Given this need, it is understandable why we suffer painful feelings when we think we aren’t good at anything. For example, we may feel discouraged or depressed when we feel like we don’t have special any… Continue reading When We Feel Purposeless and Like We aren’t Good at Anything: Avoiding “Static Thinking”

Healing Difficult Emotions, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions

The purpose of my blog is to help people practice kindness, compassion, and respect to live more resilient lives.[1] One of the ways we show ourselves kindness, compassion, and respect is by developing practices that help us cope with painful emotions. Sometimes painful emotions are severe enough that we need to seek help from a… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions

Healing Difficult Emotions, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Seven Things You Can Do When You Don’t Like Who You are and Want to Be Better or Someone Else

Sometimes we reflect on our life, and we don’t like who we are. We look at other people who seem to have the perfect life, and we desperately want to be them. Have you ever felt like this? If you are like most people, you probably have. I know I have. This feeling is often… Continue reading Seven Things You Can Do When You Don’t Like Who You are and Want to Be Better or Someone Else

Contemplative Practice, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Spirituality and Love

Contemplative Practices: What they are; Why They are for Everyone; and How they Help Us

One of the most loving and powerful things we can do for ourselves is develop consistent contemplative practices. The phrase contemplative practice may sounds religious or mystical to you. And it can be both of these things, but don't worry. Even if you are not religious and do not practice any faith, contemplative practices are… Continue reading Contemplative Practices: What they are; Why They are for Everyone; and How they Help Us

Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Gardening as Self-Love: A Guest Post by Ali from The Mindful Gardener

I found my friend Ali's blog The Mindful Gardener over a year ago, and I am so glad I did. Ali is clearly passionate about gardening, and her posts are a feast both for the eye--as she shares her beautiful nature photography--and for the soul--as she includes such gentle wisdom, humor, and kindness in all her… Continue reading Gardening as Self-Love: A Guest Post by Ali from The Mindful Gardener

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Two Views of Human Beings: And Why the Views Matter

I firmly believe that the world needs more of you, not less of you. The world also needs more of me, not less of me. To explain what I mean, I would like to describe two ways of looking at people. The first view is the Winner-Loser View. This view of people suggests that people… Continue reading Two Views of Human Beings: And Why the Views Matter

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Month Ten and Eleven of Beautiful Breathing: Dealing with Our Shadow Side

Last May, I realized I was having problems with shallow, erratic breathing and that it was causing a lot of anxiety[1], low energy, and other problems. I began a simple breathing practice to help some of these issues. It has brought a lot of beautiful changes in my life like increased energy, the ability to… Continue reading Month Ten and Eleven of Beautiful Breathing: Dealing with Our Shadow Side