Dealing with Low Self-Worth, Lists of Essential and Inspiring Matters, Self-compassion, Uncategorized, Working With Painful Emotions

Step One: Recognizing Perfectionism and Self-Hate

Step One: Recognizing perfectionism and self-hate. This post is the second one in a series about overcoming self-hate and connecting with love. You can read an introduction to the series here. Self-Hate and Self-Love If we want to understand how to overcome self-hate and connect with love, it is helpful to know what self-hate is. Self-hate… Continue reading Step One: Recognizing Perfectionism and Self-Hate

Self-compassion

Bullies and Self-Care

This post is about how to resist bullies and practice self-care in such situations. In order to understand how to do both of these things, let's first imagine how we protect our friends. Sticking Up for Our Friends Imagine a very dear friend that you love a great deal. Now imagine that someone is picking… Continue reading Bullies and Self-Care

Self-compassion

Why Self-Love is Not Narcissism

Is self-love narcissism? Self-Love Makes Us Uncomfortable People often feel very uncomfortable with the idea of loving themselves. I know that for years I did. Perhaps this is because in the past we have encountered people who seemed to love themselves more than anyone else. And this led them to act in a narcissistic and… Continue reading Why Self-Love is Not Narcissism

Dealing with Low Self-Worth

Becoming Your Own Best Friend

This post explores how you can become your own best friends and gives you some practical suggestions for doing this. It is the third post in a series. In my last two posts, I discussed how to cultivate self-love by thinking of yourself as a child you love  and by speaking to yourself as you would a child… Continue reading Becoming Your Own Best Friend

Dealing with Low Self-Worth

Loving Affirmations and Self-Love

This is a post about using loving affirmations to connect with our True Self or Higher Self. And this post is a part of a series on cultivating self-love. In my last post, I discussed the first way we can cultivate self-love, which is to think of ourselves as a little child.  Just like children… Continue reading Loving Affirmations and Self-Love

Dealing with Low Self-Worth, Lists of Essential and Inspiring Matters, Self-compassion, Uncategorized

Adopting a Loving View of Ourselves

It is possible to adopt a loving view of ourselves. And it is one of the wisest things we can do. The process begins with some self-reflection. For example, consider these questions: How well do you like yourself? Which of the following statements best represents your relationship with yourself? I absolutely love myself. I’m okay,… Continue reading Adopting a Loving View of Ourselves

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

The Day a Total Stranger Gave me Earrings in the Airport

I recently had an adventure in the airport, and it all started because of a book. One day I was reading, and I read the phrase, “Be willing to receive good things.” Two things happened. First, I got very uncomfortable because historically, I have not been good at receiving things from people—gifts, compliments, help, you… Continue reading The Day a Total Stranger Gave me Earrings in the Airport

Body Partnership, Lists of Essential and Inspiring Matters, Practices for Cultivating Love, Working With Painful Emotions

Five Things You Can Do When You Feel Ugly and Gross

There are days when we feel ugly and gross and our confidence plummets into a very dark, deep well. It is no wonder that we struggle with these feelings. We live in a media-saturated society, in which we are surrounded by perfectly fit, airbrushed images all the time. This can teach us to hate our… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Feel Ugly and Gross

Poetry

Your Magic

Last night I was channeling Shel Silverstein, and I wrote a poem about you and your magic. Remembering our magic is important because we often feel like we are purposeless or insignificant. But the opposite is true. All of us are worthy, capable, connected, and called to adventure. We are worthy we because we possess… Continue reading Your Magic

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

A Letter to You on Valentine’s Day

Today is Valentine’s Day, and you might be feeling particularly crummy. If you are, this letter is especially for you. But even if you are not, this letter is still for you. There is a lot of pressure on Valentine's Day to have or to be the perfect partner and to have a perfect life… Continue reading A Letter to You on Valentine’s Day