Politics and Love

Should White People Feel Ashamed of White Privilege?

This post is about whether white people should feel ashamed of white privilege. To help us explore this question, I am going to describe three different scenarios to you. I would ask you to use your imagination to put yourself fully into each of them. Scenario #1: The Kentucky-Tennessee 10K Race.  Imagine that you are… Continue reading Should White People Feel Ashamed of White Privilege?

Self-compassion, Uncategorized

The Great Love Story: Healing Shame

This post is about The Great Love Story and Healing Shame. It details how I traded in a harmful belief of the world (The Do Enough Myth) for a better story. The Do Enough Myth is one of the most common causes of shame in our lives. This is not at all surprising when we… Continue reading The Great Love Story: Healing Shame

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion

The Do Enough Myth, Our Anxiety, and Healing Our Feelings of Shame and Unworthiness

I have been thinking about shame lately. Shame is the belief, with an accompanying painful feeling, that we are not good enough or that we are deeply flawed, gross, or radically imperfect. Shame and Anxiety I believe many of us struggle with feelings of shame and unworthiness on a regular basis. These feelings might manifest… Continue reading The Do Enough Myth, Our Anxiety, and Healing Our Feelings of Shame and Unworthiness

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Giving Ourselves the Gift of Presence

When we give ourselves the gift of presence, we are with ourselves in all of our moments—our joyful and sorrowful moments, our moments of success and failure, the moments when we love ourselves, and the moments when we feel full of shame. We recognize and accept ourselves in all of our human emotions and experiences.… Continue reading Giving Ourselves the Gift of Presence