Do you frequently try to prove your worth to others?
If so, I sympathize. For much of my life, I tried to prove my worth to others by being smart enough, sweet enough, good enough, holy enough, beautiful enough, or “whatever” enough.
It was exhausting.
And then two realizations changed this.
First, I realized one day that I could be as smart, sweet, good, holy, beautiful, etc. as humanly possible, and it wouldn’t be good enough for some people because they had a critical and judgmental heart about everyone and everything.
I also realized that there were people with kind hearts who loved me unconditionally even when I messed up badly. This made me realize that people’s opinions about my worth were primarily a reflection of their own hearts and not really a reflection of me.
If you have people in your life that constantly make you prove your worth through your actions or appearance, this is about them and not about you. (You might find this post helpful: Sticking Up for Ourselves)
Second, I realized that we don’t think that babies, cats, dogs, trees, and flowers have to prove their worth. We realize they already have worth–their worth is their “babyness”, their “catness”, their “dogness”, etc. It is that special thing that makes them unique and originally beautiful, and we do our best to nurture them so their unique worth can shine.
Grown ups possess this special uniqueness and beauty, too. You have it, and so do I. This worth is the seeds of goodness and love that are present in all of our hearts and will grow if we give them a chance to do so. We don’t have to prove our worth. We already possess it. (We can forget our worth or cover it up, but we can never lose it.)
So instead of trying to prove your worth to people who may or may not see it because of the state of their own hearts, try relaxing into and nurturing the worth you already have.
How do you do this? Set an intention each day to honor your worth by watering the seeds of goodness and love in yourself and others. (You can also check out these posts: Healing Our Shame or Seven Steps to Love: Recovering from Self-Hate)
You are worthy, Friend.
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